Friday, July 28, 2006

He Said, She Said: What are words for?

Do you hear me
Do you care
Do you hear me
Do you care

My lips are moving and the sound's coming out
The words are audible but I have my doubts
That you realize what has been said
You look at me as if you're in a daze
It's like the feeling at the end of the page
when you realize you don't know what you just read

What are words for when no one listens anymore
What are words for when no one listens
What are words for when no one listens it's no use talkin at all

I might as well go up and talk to a wall
'cause all the words are having no effect at all
It's a funny thing am I all alone

Something has to happen to change the direction
What little filters through is giving you the wrong impression
It's a sorry state I say to myself

What are words for when no one listens anymore
What are words for when no one listens
What are words for when no one listens it's no use talkin at all

Do you hear me
Do you care
Do you hear me
Do you care

Let me get by
Over your dead body
Hope to see you soon
When will I know
Doors three feet wide with no locks open
Walking always backwards in the faces of strangers
Time could be my friend
But it's less than nowhere now
less than nowhere now
less than nowhere now
now
ow ow ow

Pursue it further and another thing you'll find
Not only are they deaf and dumb they could be going blind and no one notices
I think I'll dye my hair blue

Media overload bombarding you with action
It's getting near impossible to cause distraction
Someone answer me before I pull out the plug

What are words for when no one listens anymore
What are words for when no one listens
What are words for when no one listens it's no use talkin at all

What are words for when no one listens anymore
What are words for when no one listens
What are words for when no one listens it's no use talkin at all

Do you hear me
Do you care
Do you hear me
Do you care
tell me what are words for
Do you hear me
tell me what are words for
Do you care
tell me what are words for
Do you hear me
so tell me what are words for
Do you care
so tell me what are words for
Do you hear me
tell me what are words for
so tell me what are words for
Do you care
so tell me what are words for
Do you hear me
tell me what are words for
so tell me what are words for
Do you care
so tell me what are words for

"Words" by Missing Persons


Last night we had a very typical situation that I think is a perfect example of male-female differences and how they can cause problems.

My daughter pulled a loose tooth and asked me if her big brother would want to see it. I told her that I thought he probably would so she went to show him. She came back and said that he didn't care. I asked her what he said, and she said that he said, "Whatever." I told her not to take it as him not caring. I told her that boys are just that way: they care but they just don't act like it or say they do, especially 10 year old boys. Then she said, "Well, Daddy doesn't do that." And I told her that some grown up men have learned to be different, but that even they aren't always expressive enough.

I got to thinking about it and decided that this was a very good lesson for her (and me). And I need to have a little talk with my oldest son to let him know that girls need and want boys to at least act like they care about things and that it doesn't diminish his masculinity show some care and concern, even about little things. See, this is the power of the feminine touch on the developing male psyche. Unlike the feminazis I'm not going to try to make my boys into girlie-men, but I will inform them of ways in which they can get along better with the fairer sex. Likewise, I'll continue to explain to my daughter that boys are different and that she should not let her own happiness and/or worth depend upon their unreliable interpersonal skills. It's a balancing act, I suppose. I hope I'm not screwing them up.

5 comments:

nosthegametoo said...

Thank you for the poetry, and sharing the story about your little one's question.

It reminded me a young cousin I have.

DHammett said...

You could probably write an encyclopedia about how to understand women and we still wouldn't get it. But we know what we like. ;-) Vive la difference!

No_the_game said...

I know my co-blogger commented on it already. But when I read what you wrote I felt obligated to tell you that I really loved your poem and story about your kids. There is a lot truth to it.

The Guy said...

It sounds to me like you're being reasonable and balanced with both your children. Doing your best isn't always shooting in the dark. Often instinct comes through for the human animal. Especially in regards to those humans close to us.

And let me make a further reflection on male character which might also enlighten you. Although we boys delight in insects and snakes and other gruesome things, sometimes biological issues sometimes just hit us the wrong way. Disinterest might be a compromise between your sons developing machismo ( a natural part of the male character) and outright disgust. Showing revulsion is after all unmannly behaviour. Such stereotypes arise in the neuralogical structure which underlay the operation of our subconscious not from socially imposed patterns. So it would be natural for your children to express such differences of personality which although being unique still reflect commonly recognizable themes.

I think you're doing a fine job, keep up the thoughtful work.

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