It is about time to seal the deal. One way or the other. God does not judge us for the choices and decisions that others make, even when those choices put us in a position we are afraid displeases Him.
In negotiations there will oftentimes be a side that feels like they are giving up more than the other in order for an agreement to be reached. The main question is "how much is too much?" Sometimes that answer changes throughout the negotiation process. Standing firm on our principles is important and admirable, but life is not only black and white. There is much more gray (and other colors) in God's creation and He designed it that way so that we can grow through the challenges of looking at the more subtle shades and hues and textures. All of these variables are part of the equation.
God recognizes when we give up part of what we want so that a solution and progress are possible. He knows that sometimes we are forced into a position that we don't like, but He does promise that those losses end up becoming huge wins after all the aspects of His plan are fulfilled. In our negotiations we have to have that same outlook - that it will work out for the best as long as all involved are earnest and honest.
There is no way to know for sure if agreed upon terms and conditions will hold up over time, and there is no way to predict all future variables and challenges. We have to trust that issues and conflicts in the future will be fairly considered and addressed. It's easy to think that the negotiations are a one-and-done process, but most serious agreements will need to be renegotiated after a significant amount of time or in the event of big life changes.
Whether the deal is a beginning or an ending of something, or even an adjustment to previous deals, it is vital to complete the transaction. The concept of "transactional" is seen as a negative according to some relationship "experts" but in reality all of nature is transactional. To limit human interactions by reducing or eliminating transactional interactions is ineffective and silly. Give and take is the only way to get things done in life. No one can be completely self-sufficient, and no one can be so altruistic as to only act without any reciprocation or exchange. Even the concept of love languages is based on transactions/actions that express love. Delaying completion of an agreement causes frustration, anger, and resentment. When it is clear that no further adjustments to the negotiation can be agreed upon it is time to finish it. Sign the papers, free each other of the uncertainty, end what no longer works, begin new endeavors.
Sealing the deal, signing the contract is just the beginning of the journey.
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